Change your Relationship with Food

Pole dancing towards self-acceptance with Nelly Rose

Join Kyla Holley, as she hosts an insightful discussion with Nelly Rose, a pole dancer, exotic dancer, and co-author of "Weighed Down, Unlearning the Lies Sold to Us About Our Bodies".
Nelly shares her transformational journey from battling body insecurities and disordered eating to finding self-acceptance and comfort in her own skin. With a background in the fitness industry member and an experienced performer, Nellie presents a unique view on body image, the misconstruction of health and fitness, and the crucial role of self-perception in our lives.
Nelly discusses the complex relationship between societal pressures, personal goals, and the unending pursuit of self-love. She dispels misconceptions about the pole dancing and stripping industries, explaining their distinctions and their impact on her self-perception.
Whether you're dealing with food and body image concerns or simply looking to broaden your perspective on these issues, this podcast is a wealth of knowledge and incites deep contemplation about societal norms around health and aesthetics.
The guest unravels her personal struggle with eating disorders, showing how obsessive eating behaviors and excessive exercise camouflaged her caloric shortage. 
Nelly explains how the venture into stripping served as a catalyst in her life, leading her towards liberation from disordered eating mentality. Pole dancing, she says, cultivated not just physical strength and flexibility, but also fostered body positivity and health, inspiring her to value her body not solely for its appearance but for its capabilities.
Nelly serves as a beacon of the increasing acceptance and diversity within the stripping industry, fostering body positivity and underscoring the power of individual transformation.
 
Kyla Holley is the Director of the Australian Centre for Eating Behaviour www.acfeb.com
 
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Gain what you want, without losing anything

Often, Kyla encounters patients referred by their GPs who see weight loss as their ultimate solution to attaining happiness or health. She emphasises that contrary to popular belief, these aspects are not necessarily linked to the number on the scale. Listen in as Kyla unravels the real elements of happiness, health, attractiveness and love. She paints a vivid picture of an ideal life, one that is not intrinsically tied to weight.
Explore as Kyla delves deeper into the motives behind weight loss desires, attempting to understand what individuals feel this alteration will bring them. She also shares practical tips on how to be healthier, happier and more attractive without always focusing on the number on the scale. Learn about steps such as better thinking, eating, resting and movement habits for a  non-restrictive approach to wellness.
Kyla Holley is the Director of the Australian Centre for Eating Behaviour www.acfeb.com
 
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Gut-directed hypnotherapy with Bianca Skilbeck

In this episode, Kyla chats to Bianca Skilbeck, founder of Freedom From Food, which is based in Melbourne, Australia.
Bianca imparts invaluable insights into the misunderstood world of clinical hypnotherapy, explaining how it doesn't take over anyone's mind but guides people into a more focused state to be able to facilitate change.
Bianca introduces us to the intriguing concept of 'gut-directed hypnotherapy,' an innovative method of mitigating functional gut symptoms. She shares how this groundbreaking technique rewires the mind-body connection, helping individuals gain control over stress-related physical responses.
We delve into how gut-directed hypnotherapy works and how it can be customised to address specific gut health-related issues. With promising results witnessed in a significant percentage of patients, this flexible approach offers a potent alternative to medications and diet restrictions.
Further expanding on the mind-body connection, Kyla and Bianca discuss how our bodies respond considerably to our mental health, asserting the need to manage both physical and psychological aspects for optimal wellness. Learn from Bianca's decade-long experience as a hypnotherapist specialising in treating disordered eating and gut health issues using gut-directed hypnotherapy.
Join us in this engrossing conversation as we unravel an unconventional approach to managing digestive health that leverages the mind-body connection.
You can make contact with Bianca Skilbeck here https://www.freedomfromfood.com.au/
 
Kyla Holley is the Director of the Australian Centre for Eating Behaviour www.acfeb.com
 
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Can childhood beliefs ruin adult intentions?

Welcome to this episode of 'Change Your Relationship with Food', hosted by eating disorder and bariatric therapist, Kyla Holley. Today, the episode dives into the unique and sometimes twisted world of our childhood beliefs about food and the influence these views have on our behaviours and attitudes towards food as adults.
Inspired by Sarah Jessica Parker's story, we touch upon the topic of restrictive upbringing and how it pushes for a drastic shift towards intuitive eating in adulthood. Kyla shares personal anecdotes about her food beliefs growing up, emphasizing their implications on our adult lives. This session addresses common childhood beliefs like guilt around food wastage, using food as rewards, and the pressure to finish everything on the plate.
Furthermore, the episode delves into our unsaid obligations towards finishing meals, underlining the value of deriving satisfaction instead of empty plates. The revelation lies in understanding that every meal offers a chance for conscious decision making, tracing our body's need for nourishment, and marking the boundary for our consumption.
Parents listening in can grasp how to enable healthier communication and instill intuitive eating habits in their children. Instead of laying down restrictive rules, the focus should be on encouraging a balanced diet, understanding hunger, and cultivating flexibility in eating schedules and food choices. The goal is to foster a positive relationship with all types of food and move away from demonizing certain food groups.
This episode also introduces the concept of a "food script", the habits and rules about food we carry with us from our childhood. It encourages listeners to reflect upon their own food scripts, see its impact on their current lives, and reassess if modification is needed. Remember, building a healthier future for the next generation begins with breaking free from our diet history and forming healthier food habits today.
Kyla Holley is the Director of the Australian Centre for Eating Behaviour www.acfeb.com
 
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The truth about Dietitians with Rachel O'Brien

In this enlightening podcast, we are delighted to have Rachel O'Brien, a private practice dietitian from Australia, as our guest. Rachel brings her expertise in gastrointestinal nutrition, bariatric surgery, and adult weight management to shed light on the true nature of being a dietitian and dismantling some common fallacies.
Rachel unfolds the journey of dietitian training in Australia, a structured and respected pathway involving years of study and ongoing professional education. She opens up about her personal passion for nutrition, demonstrating how a dietitian can have a transformative effect on a person's well-being through well-informed dietary changes.
We spotlight the common misconception about the physical image of dietitians and the assumption that they do not understand the complexities of weight loss. Countering this, Rachel acknowledges that dietitians come from diverse backgrounds and are empathetic to their patients' unique conditions.
We tackle another frequent concern that dietitians enforce restrictive diets and calorie counting only. However, Rachel's methodology is based on enhancements rather than eliminations, by integrating healthier elements into a patient's usual diet while not entirely depriving them of their favorite foods.
Through this engaging conversation, we strive to debunk dietitian-related myths, address the pitfalls of restrictive dieting, and highlight the ultimate objective - fostering lasting and healthful dietary habits.
One of the highlights of the episode is the detailed walkthrough of the first consultation with a dietician. It involves a thorough evaluation of the patient's medical history, lifestyle, food consumption, and nutrition impact symptoms to devise a custom nutrition plan.
The conversation also ventures into other popular misconceptions about, including the expectation of selling expensive supplements and pressuring clients into an unattainable diet.
The mission, as clearly outlined in the episode, is not about eliminating favorite foods or inducing guilt. 
If you would like to contact Rachel O'Brien for an individual consultation, please contact her via Coffs Coast Metabolic Surgery.
Consider joining our empowering six-week online course, "Change Your Relationship with Food", accessible on www.acfeb.com and our enlightening journal and workbook available for purchase on Amazon. Empower yourself to step away from imposing rules, diminish mindless eating tendencies, and transform your relationship with food.
 
Kyla Holley is the Director of the Australian Centre for Eating Behaviour www.acfeb.com
 
Take our 6 week Change your Relationship with Food online course
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Cognitive Dissonance - Have you got it, and does it matter?

Welcome to "Change Your Relationship with Food," hosted by experienced eating disorder and bariatric therapist, Kyla Holley. Join her as she navigates the complexities of cognitive dissonance and its profound influence on our relationship with food.
In this thought-provoking episode, Kyla introspects the inner battle of the "bad cop, good cop" mentality towards food. Uncover how this internal debate, originating from cognitive dissonance, propels us into a cycle of recurrent detrimental food behaviours that place a damper on our relationship with food.
Unearth the power of these conflicting "cops" in your dietary decisions - one endorsing strict diet regulations and the other prompting indulgence. Gain insight into the discomfort and unhealthy feeding habits born from this persistent internal discrepancy. Understand the urgency of discerning this cognitive dissonance cycle as an essential step towards change.
Armed with valuable insights, Kyla guides listeners to pinpoint and nurture the voice of reason wedged between the "bad cop" and "good cop". Discover how harnessing this logical voice channels you towards healthier and balanced food choices in the long haul.
Learn about our unique perceptive "middle" voice, aiding our food decisions without imposing any rigid "good" or "bad" food rules. Adapt a mindful approach of questioning our food wants, their implications on our feelings, and their fulfillment to both our body and mind.
Relay in our personal narratives as we demonstrate how embracing this approach empowers us to uncover genuine food preferences and stamp out unconscious consumption. Challenge your fears of unregulated food choices and the accompanying guilt and shame tied to specific food cravings.
Consider joining our empowering six-week online course, "Change Your Relationship with Food", accessible on www.acfeb.com and our enlightening journal and workbook available for purchase on Amazon. Empower yourself to step away from imposing rules, diminish mindless eating tendencies, and transform your relationship with food.
 
Kyla Holley is the Director of the Australian Centre for Eating Behaviour www.acfeb.com
If you have episode suggestions or questions, you can contact Kyla on info@acfeb.com
 
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A Conversation with Mary Pearson - Author of Weighed Down

In this episode, Kyla invites Mary Pearson, a social worker and the author of the eye-opening book "Weighed Down: Unlearning the Lies Sold to Us About Our Bodies", to shed light on misconceptions surrounding body image.
Mary shares her personal journey and the passion that prompted her to write her book, offering fresh perspectives on the complex relationship we have with our bodies. She discusses the toxic expectations set by the media and weight loss industry, and the intriguing concept of being "body neutral".
Our conversation is an empowering start to questioning and disarming the deeply-ingrained stereotypes and pressures about body image that society places upon us. We delve deep into the societal issue of fat phobia, attempt to go beyond surface level and dissect the fear of being fat, which is deeply internalised but often projected externally.
Further, we discuss the economic realities behind these harmful narratives, how fear is monetised and how it capitalises on insecurities to promote various products and services.
Mary Pearson's experiences and wisdom bring home just how imperative it is that we dismantle the judgments based on physical appearance. We also ponder how age-related pressures compound body image anxieties and emphasise the journey towards self-acceptance as a path that requires patience and time.
Our ultimate aim is to impart the liberating mindset that everyone's body is their best 'as is', today and every day. We believe that listening to this thought-provoking episode may afford you the opportunity to confront your own biases and perhaps change your perspective on body image.
Kyla Holley is the Director of the Australian Centre for Eating Behaviour www.acfeb.com
 
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You and chocolate can be friends!

Join Kyla Holley, an experienced eating disorder and bariatric therapist, in a fascinating episode dedicated to the concept of mindful eating. This topic, often misunderstood, is more about cultivating a healthier relationship with food than adopting the latest health trend. Clear your preconceptions, and dare to savour each meal properly.
In this podcast episode, Kyla spotlights mindful eating. She takes her listeners through a journey of cherishing food for its taste and texture rather than viewing it merely as a weight loss tool or a physical necessity. 
Imagine taking a bite, indulging in an interesting and deeply enjoyable activity of mindful eating and discovering secrets to a fuller, richer relationship with food.
According to Kyla, it's not about avoiding our foodie favorites, but rather forming a deeper connection with them and learning to relish them in a controlled manner. She encourages everyone to give this enlightening journey a try - to love food wholesomely and savour each bite.
Take a deep dive into the smells and sights and senses that make up the core experience of eating. Discover how the element of attention changes your anticipation, your enjoyment, and ultimately, your relationship with food.
Through this lovingly crafted session, Kyla urges listeners to move beyond the first bite, becoming alert to the complexity of flavors, savoring the texture, and determining when they've truly had enough. The goal isn't directed towards weight loss, but a rich understanding and enjoyment of food.
Come aboard this enlightening journey and transform your relationship with food.  Until next week, embark on this delicious experiment with mindful eating, one bite at a time!
Kyla Holley is the Director of the Australian Centre for Eating Behaviour www.acfeb.com
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The grey area between a diet and an eating disorder

In this episode, we delve into the concept of Orthorexia, a fixation on eating healthily and an obsession with body image, which can lead to extreme behaviors and eating disorders like Anorexia.
The episode begins by asking listeners to visualise a pie chart describing who they are. This guide provides an understanding of how your thinking patterns can be dominated by food, weight, and body image. This exercise helps gauge the extent of your obsession and its impact on mental health and lifestyle.
Using intriguing statistics, the episode assesses time spent worrying about body image over a lifetime. This analysis reveals how a seemingly small percentage of your day spent stressing over body image accumulates over the years, encroaching on valuable time that could be spent on more meaningful pursuits.
The episode then introduces Orthorexia, explaining its place in the spectrum between dieting and Anorexia. In the process, the impacts on mental health, social interaction, and daily life are explained. The factors differentiating a healthy, conscious eater from an Orthorexic, including signs such as emotional distress when rules are broken and avoidance of social situations that do not match their strict diet, are discussed.
Critiques of societal normalization of Orthorexia, the tendency to equate thinness with health and the role of faulty perceptions in the manifestation of weight-related mental health issues also form part of this discussion. The conversation ends with an introspective message: It pushes listeners to evaluate whether a relentless pursuit of a healthy body at the cost of mental wellbeing and life-enriching experiences is worthwhile.
In addition to this deep dive into Orthorexia, listeners are invited to explore resources, including a Change Your Relationship with Food course and a journal/workbook available on Amazon. The online course is designed to help you reassess your relationship with food and understand it from a different perspective.
Kyla Holley is the Director of the Australian Centre for Eating Behaviour www.acfeb.com
 
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Can weight loss ruin my relationship?

In this episode, we uncover the underexplored effects of weight loss on relationships. As a professional assisting individuals preparing for weight loss journeys, I have observed dramatic shifts in relationship dynamics. Dealing with everything from increased confidence and attention to discomfort and past trauma, I probe into how shedding weight can be a double-edged sword.
The influence extends to romantic relationships as well, with different impacts on long-term relationships vs newer ones. 
A key factor is opening up discussions about physical and personal changes pre-weight loss to preemptively address relationship changes.
Delving into 'weight conflict', I explore how drastic weight loss can sometimes lead to self-sabotage out of discomfort with changes in the body and personality.
Adding to this struggle, I discuss the influence of friends and family comments, who may trigger doubts in the achiever, urging them to halt the weight loss process. 
Recognising that weight loss journeys are distinct for every individual, I emphasize that with the right help and support, not only can weight loss be successful, but relationships can also improve as a result. 
Kyla Holley is the Director of the Australian Centre for Eating Behaviour www.acfeb.com
Want more ?
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If you have episode suggestions or questions, you can contact Kyla on info@acfeb.com
 
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